By Justin Stoddart
In a world where “work-life balance” often feels like a myth—especially in real estate—it’s refreshing to meet someone who’s proving that you really can do both. During my conversation with Shae Spitz, an agent with eXp Realty out of Nebraska and the host of the R.E.A.L. Moms Podcast, I was struck by her honesty, grit, and deep sense of purpose.
Shae doesn’t sugarcoat it. Being a mom and a high-performing agent at the same time isn’t easy. But as she shared her story: from a leap of faith into real estate, to balancing family and entrepreneurship, to overcoming burnout, she gave us a roadmap for thriving in both business and life.
Before real estate, Shae was a case manager for adults with mental illness. It was meaningful work, but it came with limits. When she realized that no matter how hard she worked, her paycheck wouldn’t change, she knew something had to give.
So, with two little ones at home and a mountain of fear, she dove headfirst into real estate. “I said if I pass my licensing exam the first time, I’m giving my notice,” she told me. She passed—and within six months, she had closed 14 transactions.
It wasn’t easy. There were long nights, tight finances, and a constant balancing act between ambition and motherhood. But it was hers. Her effort finally aligned with her rewards, and that made all the difference.
One of the myths of entrepreneurship is that you’ll instantly have freedom. As Shae reminded us, the “work when you want” lifestyle comes after years of grinding when you must.
“Starting out, it’s not like that,” she said. “You’re working evenings, weekends, and doing whatever it takes. You earn the flexibility later.”
It’s a mindset every agent should embrace, especially those juggling family responsibilities. Freedom is the result of consistency, not a shortcut.
Shae’s motivation wasn’t just money, it was her family. She wanted to be the mom who made every field trip, even if that meant working harder and smarter to make it happen.
“I’ve made it to every one of my kids’ field trips,” she said. “Sometimes I don’t even want to go—but my kids do. And that’s enough.”
It’s a reminder that real success isn’t just measured in commission checks, but in the memories you create and the example you set.
In real estate, availability can feel like the only competitive edge. But for Shae, learning to say no was transformational.
“I’m not going to answer calls after 6 p.m.,” she said. “When you set boundaries, people tend to respect you more.”
She treats family commitments like appointments: non-negotiable and sacred. If you’re looking to reclaim your time and reduce burnout, start there.
Perhaps my favorite moment in our conversation came when Shae laughed and said, “Sometimes I just know I’m supposed to do something—and I go for it.”
From buying an abandoned church and turning it into a stunning Airbnb to leading a 75-acre development project, she’s built her business by trusting that inner nudge.
Her advice?
“Don’t ask, ‘Can I do this?’ Ask, ‘How can I?’ Because when you ask better questions, you open the door to solutions you didn’t even know were there.”
That mindset of “faith it till you make it” is the hallmark of every great entrepreneur.
Shae’s story isn’t just for moms. It’s for every agent trying to build a business that supports a meaningful life. The themes she embodies: faith, focus, boundaries, and grit, are the same principles that separate good agents from great ones.
As I reflected on our conversation, I couldn’t help but think about my own mom: an incredible entrepreneur who somehow managed to be at every event and build a thriving business. Shae reminded me that success isn’t about doing it all, it’s about doing what matters most, on purpose.
So to every real estate mom (and dad) out there feeling the tug between family and ambition—keep going. The world doesn’t just need more top producers. It needs leaders like you who show the next generation what’s possible.
01:25 – Guest: Shae Spitz, eXp Realty & Real Moms Podcast host
02:13 – From case manager to full-time real estate success
05:58 – Balancing motherhood and entrepreneurship
10:01 – Faith, fitness, and finding strength through struggle
17:48 – Setting boundaries and protecting family time
22:13 – “Faith it till you make it” and trusting intuition
26:14 – Asking better questions and thinking bigger
27:40 – Final thoughts: success in business and family
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